This last week and a half has yielded a nice new perspective for me. Another way of saying it is: I have spent most of my life looking in the wrong place for the wrong things. Most everything I have struggled with in this blog effected by this perspective change. As I understand it better, I will write more about it. (This will be a fun and challenging series for this blog
To begin, I would like to go back to my thoughts on how we should treat people who are making us unhappy while their actions are quite dysfunctional.
To begin, as I sat with a friend recently, he wanted me to change the extremes on my chart from "happy to un-happy" to "Joy to hurt." I both liked his idea, and was resistant to it (please look to this CHART). I was resistant because I was concerned that people would not be able to relate to the chart because the terms joy and hurt were so extreme. I have found they are hesitant to give other's credit for being the source of it. I held on to this resistance for several hours, until i decided to create a range of expressions to place along that horizontal spectrum line. So let us start by trying to come up with as many words for emotions sparked by others between the extremes of joy and hurt. After we have a good list - We can sort them... Okay - a little web surfing and I have more than I can handle.....
Positive:
assurance
adoration
fondness
liking
attraction
caring
tenderness
compassion
sentimentality
passion
infatuation
longing
amusement
thrill
exhilaration
amazement
rapture
hope
optimism
pride
contentment
pleasure
zest
bliss
cheerfulness
gaiety
glee
delight
gladness
enjoyment
jubilation
elation
satisfaction
joy
happy
hilarious
charm
serene
sentimental
anticipation
surprise
hope
love
wonder
courage
elation
interest
expectancy
desire
Aversion
acceptance
Negative:
reluctant
shame
anger
doleful
distrust
contempt
aggravation
irritation
agitation
Depression
gloomy
grief
sorrow
melancholy
dismay
guilt
alienation
neglect
loneliness
dejection
nervousness
apprehension
uneasiness
worry
Distress
dread
annoyed
exasperation
frustration
anger
bitterness
loathing
scorn
spite
vengeful
dislike
resent
contempt
distress
panic
disgust
dejection
fear
sadness
sorrow
anxiety
misgiving
despair
sadness
rage
terror
rankle
hysterical
hostility
smolder
distraught
anguish
hurt
Sources: Flashcard Exchange; Changingminds;
1 comment:
Looking at the long list, and thinking about all the words I could have used, I am wondering at my realization that they all fall into the range between joy and hurt. Yeah, some express sentiments that are more extreme, and some express a combination of the emotion and the funtional/dysfunctional behavior...but they all do fall between those two.
The ones that I am having trouble with are the emotions of Lust, gluttony, longing, greed, envy, lazy, jealousy, pride, and arrogance. They could be known elements of the seven deadly sins, or, perhaps, with my new -soon to be disclosed understanding, they could be more evidence of where our expectations lie. (hehe - play on word)
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